Originally posted by rob.wilson
Personally I believe that its harder to be a Top/Dom than a bottom/sub. We have to be the creative ones, coming up with new and devious ways to "satisify" our subs. Pushing their boundries without breaking them, taking them to their limits and then pulling back.

Personally I see nothing wrong with a brat "topping from the bottom", since were both getting what we want. At the same time however she has to realize that this is a fine line. If the Dom is not satisfied then the play is one sided, and ruined for both.
To clarify a little - when I said "pushing their boundries without breaking them" I was referring to safewords. If your whipping your sub and they are screaming their safeword and you continue to whip them, this is "breaking the boundary".

If you manage to hit them 15 times one week and 20 the next this is pushing their boundries.

I'm sorry for the confusion, I thought it was rather clear at the time.

As for the second part of my orginal quote, since BDSM is, or should be safe, sane and consenual at all times. I see nothing wrong with a sub "topping from the bottom" at times. However it is important that the Top/Master/Dom(me) knows when to put the sub back in their place.

IMHO anyway, YMWV