Originally posted by rob.wilson
To clarify a little - when I said "pushing their boundries without breaking them" I was referring to safewords. If your whipping your sub and they are screaming their safeword and you continue to whip them, this is "breaking the boundary".

A person that does not respect a submissive's safeword is no dominant. That person is an abuser and has no place in any relationship, DS or not.


As for the second part of my orginal quote, since BDSM is, or should be safe, sane and consenual at all times. I see nothing wrong with a sub "topping from the bottom" at times. However it is important that the Top/Master/Dom(me) knows when to put the sub back in their place.

IMHO anyway, YMWV

I agree with you. Sometimes a little fun is fun, just as long as it doesn't get completely out of hand or anything. Allowing your submissive to coo you into giving her a back massage is great, because it can be quite fun to both parties and can lead to all kinds of other, pleasant things as well.

However, allowing your submissive to be a brat and act like a child (not in an age-play sort of way) to get your attention and to make you spank her is not so good in my opinion. I wouldn't stand for that sort of thing personally.