as it has been said, submission can be a hard thing to come to terms with (and i'd wager being dominant can be too) it's easier to be bratty so that you feel like you don't have a choice about submitting.

i'm not a bratty sub, i'm a bratty person. however, i am much more settled and definitely more submissive when i'm in a d/s relationship. since that is not to be anymore, i've become bratty and cheeky again

it was easier for me to resist and act up even though i loved it until i came to terms with it in my own mind. it's a long journey. maybe thats the kind of relationship Kati is after. whatever, it's her relationship.

just another humble opinion from the peanut gallery *giggle* i like that saying, i think i'll adopt it!