Koppite,
I have been keeping up with your thread. I am relieve and happy that you are taking back control of your life and happiness. I have to admit that I did not post at first because I knew my posts would not be well received. I had so many questions regarding your first post and what I perceived as a lot of missing pieces to how this hurtful situation had occurred.

I think you where brilliant to write her in an email to explain your feelings and thoughts on the relationship. I am only speaking from my own experience but I had a sub who could not communicate with me verbally no matter how many questions I asked. It was a very confusing time for me because his actions did not reflex what he would tell me. I ended up having him write it in letters to me let me see what was really going on in our relationship. I don’t really think knowing how it happened really matters now as long as you are getting the support you need.

Relationships are hard and I am glad you are finding the strength to stand your ground and not fall back into old habits. You are in control, you deserve a relationship where not only your mistress’s needs but your’s are met as well. I am glad she now understands the depth of your emotions and I am sad that your love was not returned. Be strong Koppite, the person you seek is out there.

Hugs,
Jade