well..nothing has really come of it. He is at a loss about how to deal with this....and looks to *me* for advice...i'm the submissive. i cannot tell him how to be a dominant. i have offered suggestions in the past that were not acted upon. and our 'relationship' as such is not in trouble at all. we love each other very much....its the D/s part of it that has gone by the wayside. i had a few surgeries...which put 'things' on hold. but since then, we've been kinda..stuck in that pattern. we do things together..travel, shop, walk..talk...like any other couple. we just don't have...um...well. the D/s thing going on anymore ... i'm june cleaver in the house...which is fine. but i seek more. what, exactly? not sure. i guess i just want things the way they were in the beginning of 'us'...