karin - I know you love me, I have no doubt about that fact. I love you as well. All that we have, all that we had, all that we will have. I cherish each and every item. The ring on your finger, the collar on your neck, the legal portion of our relationship that makes us Husband and wife. Each of those things bring substance to the whole of us.

To the question of rituals. As she stated she knows what needs done. So for me to say "do the laundry today" is just treating her as if she didn't know better, and I find that to be disrespectful of her intellect. So then what types of ritualistic activities might I dream up? paint the house? No, not something I want to happen, nor would I ask her. That would be a guy thing dontcha know. So then what ritualistic activity? Mode of dress? I don't know if chores are the best choice of something that would help redefine our D/s. Having her wax the floor is laborious, and she isn't fully recovered to do something that intensive. Having her crawling about the house on hands and knees isn't something that would be beneficial to our relationship. Unless of course I was home, and had her on a leash.

Ruby, thanks for the post, and to everyone else. I welcome the suggestions, and comments. Perhaps I will get this straightened out.

*goes to look up the book "The Slave" as suggested*

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