Having lived a D/s lifestyle for over 20 years and now having tried on-line, I can honestly say that I have absolutely no advice whatsoever to offer you.

Why do I say this?

Because we are all so very different...only you two can work this out-if you really believe that anyone else knows you better than you know each other and is therefore qualified to offer intimate advice, then you have very little hope.

One recurring theme on advice in here is communication...I humbly suggest that you actually talk? I can only imagine that this public display makes the situation 10 times worse...you only admit to your misgivings and amplify them.

I would suggest you go away on holiday together and consider each other as a priority-forget us. But-that is advice-so I don't suggest it at all.

Best wishes,

Ed.