Although our kids are now grown we have always kept our sexual life private and away from them both. That was OUR time and completely our business. We have been married for almost 28 years and it is only in the past few years that we have discovered BDSM.

Made no difference as our kids always accepted the fact that our room was our room and needed permission to enter unless invited. In the same way, now that they have a sex life of their own it wouldn't occur to me to question just what they do behind the doors of their rooms. They could be into the same sort of stuff as we are or they could be totally boring!

Kids don't need to know what mum and dad are up to in their room. Life will catch them soon enough and then they can, as we did, choose their own thing. That could be anything but that is their business and nobody elses.

That's not to say that we repressed our kids. They saw us nude often enough and the bathroom door was rarely closed, let alone locked, so the human body has never been a mystery to them. It was just a case of adult stuff being kept adult.

I have sympathy though for those parents who are into this lifestyle and still have little ones. All I can say is...take advantage of grandparents and aunts and uncles who would like to take the little ones off your hands for a few nights every now and then.