Karin~

I've read through this thread and find the ideas given very interesting. Even those that do not "get your fansy".

You stated on the first page you don't really know WHAT it is that is impeding your relationship....or causing the down time of the relationship. Really all suggestions may help or may not. My thoughts, until you KNOW what is the center of your needs are, all these will be are suggestions that can be tried...

You have explored others thoughts and ideas, have you two tried a professional? There are counselors, phycologists that do specialize in D/s relationships....have you considered this possiblity.

I have read more of ID's posts than I have of yours and have always thought of him as a very intellegent gentleman. You seem very intelligent and sophiscated. I've notice also, he's a very technical person, where as you are more book oriented (lack of a better term).

Since he does like setting the scene, have you tried writing your desires down for him to set the stage?

I do feel the discontent in your writings, I am just not sure how we can help.

Good luck and wishing you the best

Talia