that's a very unfortunate situation...and it sounds like you've already tried and tried...I don't think you're being selfish at all though. Personally, and as a psychologist, I do believe that sex is a large part of life, and how you react to sex has a lot to do with the way you want to live. You're obviously youthful and bursting at the seams with sexual energy, you want to do something with it...I would say that's healthy. As much as you love him, you do have to take care of yourself.

You have a very hard choice; to hurt this man, whom you genuinely love, or to live your life in a subdued, miserable state. I can empathize with how you feel...life without a sexual outlet is not only painful, but bland as well. The fact that you have to experience this from your husband really stirs something inside me. You do have a very hard choice...I have my own opinions as to this, but it really is your decision and you must make it whichever way you choose...but know this; you are definitely not being selfish. I hope you get this all sorted out

Love,
~star