I feel for you, Mishka, truly I do. I'm sure all women have had problems at one time or another regarding lack of attention or obliviousness(sp?) on the part of their men. Sometimes it just hurts so bad that you think 'I've tried to explain to him a hundred times how much it means to me and why and how much he hurts me, but why doesn't he seem to change at all? Does he even care about the fact that he's hurting me? There must be something I'm doing wrong!' And it goes on from there, at least for me.

In your case, it may be a little unusual since the attention that you lack is sexual attention. But I think the concept is the same: many men resist efforts to change them, in fact some resist it so much that the more you try, the worse it becomes. And often they don't want to admit their weaknesses, or seek help in changing even when they want to. He may be trying, and there may be a reason why he is failing but which he doesn't want to explain to you. I'm saying all this because I wanna tell you... don't blame it on yourself! It has nothing to do with YOU, it's normal to take it hard and it's normal to crave satisfaction from your partner.

And also, if telling him 100 times doesn't work, telling him 200 probably won't work either. For things to work out between the both of you, you have to make changes, most likely changes in your approach, or (as unfair as it may seem) in your expectations and needs. Of course, the other option is to make a drastic decision involving the BOTH of you. Personally, I would see that as the extreme, extreme last-ditch resort, but only you can decide.

I hope it'll work out.