Quote Originally Posted by frankee
i've tried in the past to dominate my ex-Mistress. She wanted me to try it out....i couldnt do it!! i was like a deer caught in the head lights, had no fucking clue where to start lol.

i know for sure that i could never dominate a man...EVER!
Ohh I know, something about domming a man, particularly a strong one with tattoos everywhere... seems um, wrong? lol. To me at least, I know that sounds appealing to some of you, hehe. And yeah I wouldn't know wtf to do either!

Quote Originally Posted by delia
i do believe that being a sadist and being a masochist are very similar. Although a sadist causes the pain and the masochist recieves it, the mindsets are very close--the pain is pleasurable or else it is just abuse. Whether giving or recieving, both partners are experiencing the pain (albiet at different levels) and derive satisfaction and pleasure from that.
Yeah I see what you're saying and partly agree with you, but the fact that one is taking the pain and the other is giving the pain is why I said the mindsets are opposite. Like (as was previously mentioned), a Dom who dishes out a lot of pain but hates feeling it himself, and a sub who enjoys feeling a lot of pain but couldn't bring themself to hurt another human being like that. But yes I get what you're saying about their minds would have to be in a similar place to share that experience of pain/pleasure together.

And thanks for that honest answer, Warbaby