Fear

[Avely]

You gave dtp some great and wonderful advise about find the "One". Perhaps apply this possibly to aspects of the lifestyle you wish to journey and grow from there.

The journey of discovering and exploring the lifestyle certainly is an adventure, and although it's one i've only just begun, so far it has been exciting and enjoyable.

I know I have a certain signal before this happens to me, very subtle, my body reacts or acts, gives a signal...it is there. Do you have one, perhaps suggest to watch for it or try and recognize it yourself if possible.

Definitely something I will try to look for, though I havn't noticed one yet.

Is it possible and probable to surpass these reactions? Yes with patience, trust and openness, again with a lot of work on both sides, understanding.
Outside of BDSM I have passed many of these by myself, and the joy and freedom it gives is surmountable.
Never ever give up hope, it all depends how much you want to move forward and by posting here tells me much. You are already asking. Your post is very intelligent and research thorough, so you know yourself, you are teaching yourself...yet there is only so much one can teach themself by themself.

I do indeed look forward to the day I no longer fear 'fear' itself. After reading this last quote over many times, I think you've made me realise my ultimate dilema ... this challenge may not be one that I can examine and overcome on my own.

I wonder to myself...dare I post this? Am I talking too much? I do not wish to assume anything or insinuate, insert...

Your words are wise, and I am very glad you posted them. I am greatful you are willing to share your knowledge and experience of things that I know can be difficult to remember and discuss.

softest hugs
echoes

gingerly hugs you back... softly...

Avely