Fetish, you have hit the nail squarely on the head. And willem, this lifestyle may be a game to you but it is not for many of us. This is mine and my partners way of being. If you look at it from a psychological standpoint you will see the amount of trust and devotion that must go into any successful relationship, especially one of this type.
One other point, you would be hard pressed to find another group of people like this one. From my short time here I have seen that the experience level in regards to this lifestyle and the overall intelligence level of these people is way above average. Please, if you want to talk, then talk away. But don't piss on us and try to tell us that it is really raining.
Barton.