I have found checklists to either be very good or very bad. There are several out there that are not very clear on some off ht ethings they ask and repeat the same question like five times.... Castle realm for all the hoopla that people make over the site about how its so good and informative had a really crappy one and really was not what i expected after a good dozen people told me it was the best BDSM site ever....

Here is one that I filled out that wasn't half bad. I liked it because it had some specific questions abotu scenes and stuff, but its still not the best.

Kink
Checklist
Finding out more about yourself...
The questions below will help you identify your main interests and will
probably point out a few things you're uncomfortable with and one or
two of your off-limits areas. If you have a partner this can be a great
tool for both of you - as well as for current and future conversations.
The checklist was originally designed to be answered by a submissive
but a dominant can easily use it by picturing themself on the other side
of the dynamic described.

This is not an interactive form at this time. So what you need to do is
just select the text of the checklist below and then copy and paste it
into your favourite text program (Notepad, BBEdit, Word) or even into
an email message to yourself if you like. Once you have your own copy of
this checklist you can follow the directions below.

BDSM-Fetish-Kink Checklist
Here's how to use this checklist. For each question below just put a
number from one to six (1-6) in the box to indicate your response based
on this scale:

1. This is something I really do like/want.
2. This is fun, I like this.
3. I'm not sure, let's try it out.
4. I'm not really into this, but if it turns my partner on I don't
object.
5. This will turn me off, I don't like this.
6. This is an absolute no go.
Take your time for this and consider each question, situation or
indication carefully before answering.

Are there any specific types of people that turn you on?
[ ] Soldiers, marines, paratroopers
[ ] Sailors, coast guard, merchant marine
[ ] Airmen, pilots
[ ] Policemen, security people
[ ] Truck drivers
[ ] Firemen
[ ] Executioners
[ ] Nurses, doctors
[ ] Prostitutes, tramps
[ ] Hunters
[ ] Wrestlers
[ ] Surfers, life guards
[ ] Motorcycle people, Hells Angels
[ ] Cowboys, farm boys
[ ] Gentlemen, nobility
[ ] Business people, yuppies, managers
[ ] Servants
[ ] Teachers
[ ] Daddy, uncle
Others, please specify: ___________________________________

Which of the following scenes would turn you on?
[ ] Having a romantic dinner by candlelight
[ ] I am spanked because I have been a naughty girl
[ ] I am in the woods and suddenly this man comes from behind and grabs
me
[ ] A stranger walks into my bedroom and finds me playing with myself
[ ] My partner and I are making love in a public place
[ ] I am are sold on a slave market
[ ] I am used as a slave in public
[ ] I am used as a slave in private
[ ] I am ordered to please others
[ ] I am a little schoolgirl
[ ] I am sitting/kneeling at my Master's feet
[ ] I am are tied and teased
[ ] I am grabbed by the hair and dragged into the bedroom
[ ] I am used as a dog, pony or pet
[ ] I am verbally humiliated
[ ] I am tied, gagged and blindfolded and left alone
[ ] I am tied, gagged, blindfolded and thoroughly whipped
[ ] My physical limits are tested and stretched
[ ] My mental limits are tested and stretched
[ ] I have to sign a contract
[ ] I am a total slave every day of the week
Others, please specify: ___________________________________

Is there any particular clothing or fabric that turns you on?
[ ] Leather
[ ] Rubber, latex
[ ] Patent leather, PVC
[ ] Sexy lingerie
[ ] Uniforms
[ ] Denim
[ ] High Heels
[ ] Boots
[ ] Wet suits
[ ] Servants uniform
[ ] Masks
Others, please specify: ___________________________________

Do any of the following environments or scenery turn you on?
[ ] Your bedroom
[ ] A dungeon, castle
[ ] Churches and abbeys
[ ] Farms and stables
[ ] Barracks
[ ] Abandoned construction sites
[ ] Back alleys
[ ] The red light district
[ ] A school or a classroom
[ ] BDSM-clubs
[ ] Estates
[ ] Junkyards and car dumps
[ ] Woods and forests
[ ] Medieval scenery
[ ] Nudist beaches
[ ] Parking spaces
[ ] Truck stops
[ ] The bath room
[ ] Hospital, dentist
[ ] Interrogation room
[ ] The shrink's couch
[ ] Boot camp
[ ] Jail, police station
Others, please specify: ___________________________________

I enjoy the following psychodrama(s):
[ ] The dominant talks, the submissive is silent or speaks only when
spoken to
[ ] Dialogue in normal language
[ ] Dialogue in adapted language ("Master" and "slave")
[ ] Obey rules or else
[ ] Reasonable rules
[ ] Unreasonable rules
[ ] It is OK for the dominant to loose his temper
[ ] Swearing and filthy talk
[ ] Military/jail type commands
[ ] Strict training
[ ] Obvious and explicit role play
[ ] Subtle role play
[ ] I like to be persuaded, rather than commanded
[ ] Make me feel guilty
[ ] Make me feel cheap
[ ] Make me feel used
[ ] Make me feel owned
[ ] Make me feel useless
[ ] Objectify me
[ ] The dominant must have compassion
[ ] The dominant must have no compassion at all
[ ] The dominant must only have compassion after the scene
Others, please specify: ___________________________________

Sex and sexuality
[ ] I need to be sexually aroused when in scene
[ ] I need to be sexually aroused before I enter into a scene
[ ] I like as many orgasms as I can get
[ ] An orgasm turns me off
[ ] An orgasm must only be allowed as a reward
[ ] An orgasm is a must to end the scene
[ ] Orgasms are not important, but nice
[ ] Orgasms are not important at all
[ ] I want to beg for an orgasm first
[ ] I want my sexual abilities to be stretched
[ ] I want/need sex during a scene
[ ] I want no sex during a scene
[ ] Sex should be used to relieve the tension
Others, please specify: ___________________________________

I love the following attributes
[ ] Ropes
[ ] Leather cuffs and belts
[ ] Steel cuffs and chains
[ ] Ball and chain
[ ] Blindfold
[ ] Gags
[ ] Masks
[ ] Nipple clamps and clothespins
[ ] Whips
[ ] Riding crops
[ ] Canes
[ ] Silk to be tied with
[ ] Sex toys (vibrators, butt plugs)
[ ] Needles and pins
[ ] Cross, rack
[ ] Bondage table
[ ] Cage
[ ] Sling
[ ] Body bag
Others, please specify: ___________________________________

The following scenes appeal to me:
[ ] Being tied up, caressed and loved
[ ] Being in a public place and dominated in a subtle way
[ ] Being taken out with collar and leash
[ ] Being locked up and left alone
[ ] Being tied up in a comfortable position
[ ] Being tied up in discomfort
[ ] Being tied up and (in a sexual way) exposed
[ ] Being tied up and tickled
[ ] Being tied up and (sexually) teased
[ ] Being tied up and whipped, flogged or caned
[ ] Not being tied up, but verbally commanded into certain positions
and having to maintain these
[ ] Caned, flogged or whipped without being tied or cuffed
[ ] Being spanked in the traditional way
[ ] Rough sex/being "raped"
[ ] Used as a servant
[ ] Being tied and tortured
[ ] Being tortured without being tied or cuffed
[ ] Being used by more than one dominant
[ ] Playing in combination with other couples
Others, please specify: ___________________________________

Safe words and signals
[ ] The dominant should establish one or more safe words
[ ] When I cry, the scene should stop
[ ] I should be able to communicate in plain language
[ ] The dominant should be able to read my body language
[ ] I want to be tested when I use a safe word or signal
[ ] All activity should stop immediately when I use a safe word or
signal
[ ] I do not want to use any safe word at all and my signals should be
ignored completely
[ ] When I use a safe word or signal the dominant should establish if
the scene can continue
[ ] A scene should go on up to the point where I use a safe word or
signal
[ ] The use of safe words and signals should be avoided as much as
possible
Others, please specify: ___________________________________

To me erotic power exchange is:
[ ] Something I like incidentally, just as a kick
[ ] Something I like, but not too often
[ ] Something I want as much as possible
[ ] A lifestyle that I consider important and want to practice as much
as possible
[ ] A lifestyle that should be present at all times
[ ] My way of life
[ ] The most important thing I can think of
[ ] Something I want exercised at all times and no matter what the
consequences are.
Others, please specify: ___________________________________


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I am a Dominant, Master or a Top
I am a submissive, slave or bottom.




My experience level is:




Beginner A little bit Average Alot Extensive



My sexual orientation is:




Straight Gay/Lesbian Bi-Sexual Bi-Curious



I prefer a relationship to be:




Monogamous Polyamorous Does not matter



In scene I prefer to wear the following: (check all that apply)




Denim Gothic Lace Latex/Rubber Leather



Other (explain):


I have Medical Conditions or Physical Limitations which M/my partner
should know about.

No
Yes
Explain:


Activity list

Click only one box per activity/column as multiple boxes can be checked
causing the results to be confusing to the O/one who receives them. If
Y/you accidentally click more then one simply click again on the one
Y/you don't want marked. If Y/you need it there is a "Reset" button at
the bottom of the Checklist that will clear the entire form.
In the interest column : "Limit" denotes a hard limit (lowest).
"Maybe"- you would only do it for the Dom/me/Top.
"Curious"- you would like to explore it further.
"OK" - an interest or like of the activity.
"Do it" - you definitely want that activity (highest)
Comments
Use this column to add any relevant comments Y/you have about that
paticular activity


Activity
Have Y/you participated
Interest in participating.
Comments
Abrasion No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Anal Sex No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Arm & leg sleeves No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Asphyxiation/Breath Play No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Bestiality No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Beating (soft) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Beating (hard) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Blindfolds No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Biting No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Breast bondage No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Branding No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Boot Worship No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Bondage - Soft No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Bondage Hard No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Breast Play - Soft No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Breast Play - Hard No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Brown Showers No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Caning No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Catheterization No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Chauffeuring No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Choking No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Chosen Food No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Chosen Clothing No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Clothes Pins No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Cock Worship No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Collars No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Corsets No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Cuffs No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Cutting No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Dilation No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Electric Play No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Enemas No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Examinations (physical) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Exhibitionism No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Face Slapping No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Fantasy Rape No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Fantasy Gang Rape No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Fire Play No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Fisting No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Flogging No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Following orders No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Foot worship No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Forced dressing No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Forced masturbation No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Forced Nudity No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Forced Servitude No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Full Head Hoods No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Gags No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Given Away/Sold No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Golden Showers No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Hair Brushes No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Hair Pulling No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Hand Jobs (getting) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Hand Jobs (giving) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Head (getting) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Head (giving) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

High Heel Worship No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Homage with Tongue No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Hot Waxing No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Human Puppy Dog No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Humiliation (privately) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Humiliation (publicly) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Humiliation (verbal) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Ice Play No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Including Others in Scene No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Infantilism No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Injections No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Interrogations No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Kidnapping No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Knife/Edge Play No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Kneeling No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Latex/Rubber Fetish No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Leather Fetish No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Licking No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Massages (getting) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Massages (giving) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Medical Scenes No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Mummification No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Mouth Bits No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Nipple Clamps No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Nipple Weights No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Oral Fixation No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Over The Knee Spanking No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Orgasm Control/Denial No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Penetration (double) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Penetration (triple) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Piercing (permanent) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Piercing (play/temp) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Phone Sex No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Pony Play No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Pussy Whipping No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Pussy Worship No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Riding Crops No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Roleplaying No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Religious Scenes No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Scat Play No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Scent Play No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Scratching No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Sensory Deprivation No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Servitude No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Serving as Furniture No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Sexual Deprivation No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Shaving No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Spanking No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Speculums (anal) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Speculums (vaginal) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Spreader Bars No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Stocks No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Stocking Worship No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Straight Jackets No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Strap on Dildos No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Suspension No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Supplying Victims No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Swapping/Swinging No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Tattoos No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Teasing No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Tickling No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Uniforms No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Video Taping scenes No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Voyeurism No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Whipping (singletail) No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Wrestling No Yes
Limit Maybe Curious OK Do it

Additional Comments This is a good place to expand on any specialized
play or perhaps detail a favorite scene or fantasy.