ID and Karin-

Though I don't know either of you, your love for eachother brings tears to my eyes. I can only imagine how difficult are these times for you both.

I'm completely sticking my nose where it doesn't belong... and I apologize...but if I may offer a suggestion, based upon what you're both writing and particularly this exerpt below:

Quote Originally Posted by IDCrewDawg View Post
This is difficult, and at times have doubts if this is the right thing to do. I love my wife, and love our marriage together.

However, at this time, we can't seem to come together in this manner. So I lie awake at night, thinking, wondering... am I doing the right thing, am I ok with this? I don't know. All I know is I love this woman, and I am willing to work through whatever I need to, so that we will stay together.
why such a drastic measure to seek out another so soon? There's evidently history of d/s working with you both aside from just play, and there's tons and tons of love and devotion to eachother...

perhaps you just need more time to achieve the balance you once had? Maybe it won't be the same exact way as before, but a new and improved "works for our daily life" compromise...

I've no experience to even lend validity to this reasoning... my heart truly aches for you both. All relationships go through ups and downs... maybe muddling the waters right out of the gate will do just that... get more confusing?

Again, I apologize for saying anything or everything out of line. It's not always that people are as madly in love with eachother as you two sound, and that deserves a longer chance of trying to make it work... there is a solution... it's just not always quick getting there.

I'm fortunate, my parents have been married 35 years. Trust me when I say it wasn't always strong, or happy, or fulfilling... but they are the love of eachothers lives... still... and always will be.
To me, you echo my parents love, and perhaps that's why I'm so compelled to say something...

all my best to you both.

orchidsoul