thank you orchid. i think we may have found a solution to our problem. we love each other...that's been made very clear i believe. so....we have..expanded our horizons so to speak. we both have made connections that we intend to pursue as much as possible.....oddly...we are both ok with that. we've not 'gone there' in our relationship. so this is a new journey. will keep you posted as to how things progress.

thank you for your kind thoughts...