Quote Originally Posted by leo9
If you can comfortably handle being both a strong successful person and a slave, you're lucky (or well adjusted). Many subs (particularly women) have trouble with it and need to keep the two identities in separate compartments. My own SO has been struggling with the dilemma for years and still needs to have clearly defined times when the collar goes on and comes off.

It's not (she explains) that her sub side isn't always there, but she needs to know when she is free to be everything else that she is.


well you met me at Leeds munch in january
i always wear my collar, and even if i don't, have to take it off for job-interviews as it might be too much 'jewellery' i am still the same person, don't think i need to live two lifes just so i am able to do the job i studied for