Sorry, I guess I read to much into the question. Personally, at a small house gathering, I would, more than likely, have no expectations of playing, sceneing or participating. Since it is my house, I am pretty sure that I would not want to risk being distracted. In these instances I feel my greatest responsibility is to insure the safety of everyone invited. As for my submissive, her normal limits would of course be in place. She is also my other set of eyes and ears. I would expect her to serve as my hostess as well.