The Start

How I started, well that’s a very long, painful, (not in a good way), but exciting story. To make it short my wife introduced me to it.

It’s appeal well; really it was more of an educational mission. I wanted to know why my wife loved this lifestyle so much.

Well the misconceptions that I had, as I think like most people who aren’t educated on the lifestyle is that it is a very cruel and dangerous way of having sex. Now after one year of self-education I have found that to be totally untrue. It can be the most liberating form of expressing yourself and showing true love to your partner. There is a great deal of trust that must be given on both ends, as well as love.

What I hope to learn is a better understanding of the lifestyle, why am I so excited about it why am I drawn to it, why do I need it where before it really wasn’t a part of me, or at least I thought it wasn’t. Teaching, well I’m not ready for that yet but one day I hope to be able to educate those that were like me before. To pass this on well I can only do this if the one receiving is willing to receive it.

I consider my self for now an occasional player. Real life is too much in your face for me to be a “lifestyler”. If I had no monetary worries and all in the real world was taken care of well then maybe being a “lifestyler” I would consider.

What I enjoy about being a Dominant, is the gift that I receive from my sub, as well as the high that I get each and every time I play with her. The gift that I’m talking about is the gift of trust and love.

What I like about my sub is the fact that she is my wife, although we’ve only started playing for about two weeks now, and things haven’t been perfect to say the least, mostly due to my inexperience. Like I said earlier she is the experienced one in the relationship and the fact that she is now willing to try this with me knowing my inexperience shows to me how much she loves me and wants me learn more and maybe one day be her true DOM. Only time will tell.