As Mobius said, we all have lives outside of this website, even us moderators.

As for living a 24/7 BDSM relationship, it's not an easy thing to do. We have tried to do it on more than one occasion, but when you have other, non-BDSM oriented things to do such as a full time job or children, it makes it really difficult and sometimes impossible.

All I can say is keep at it. Practice makes perfect, as they say. I am sure that, with time, it will get easier as you get into your own little groove of doing things.