Quote Originally Posted by loonytunes
...Would some of the more experienced sub fems in this great forum be willing to post about their initial experiences of R/L 24/7 so that i can bring her here in a while and see what you have had to say ,with a view to her joining in the forum and maybe even experiencing the feelings of sisterhood that many of you obviously feel, might be an interesting experience for her to feel that she has some female support/someone to discuss things with, she would not be able to discuss this with her local friends, and i truly want her to accept this lifestyle, as i adore the woman for all that i am worth, but that makes me want this all the more...
First of all, loonytunes, I believe the best idea would be for your wife to join the forums and for both of you to explore our discussions and learn that there is no such thing as an ideal or standard 24/7 rtelationship.

I can not recall my first 24/7 experience with my boyfriend because we never decided to "go 24/7". To this day I still do not even consider myself to be a "true" bdsm lifestyler (whatever that means). Yet I have learned that the type of play my boyfriend and I engage in is way more intense than the average in this forum. To give you an idea of how everyone has different:

Officially we are occasional players, but in fact I am available to him 24/7.
I submit to a flogging at the very least once a week, but neither he nor we decided it must be so.
Other than a three-level safeword system, we do not follow any rituals or protocols during scenes (at least not consistently).
During "play" I have given the right to speak to him but he has never demanded that I do not.
As much as I have been broken, used, humilliated and degraded, he would never come close to making me believe that I am not his equal.
I am a true painslut so when he needs to punish me he DOES NOT beat me.
My boyfriend does not even call me slave, he calls me Lady Nikka.

You two are going to create your ideal 24/7 relationship based on what you need, want and are able to give. And if you and her are open minded and trust each other, you are going to spend the next few years learning to become whatever you are to become and being extremely happy doing so.

Welcome to the forums!

Nikka