Hi folks and thanks for your replies, yes the 24/7 thing can sometimes prove to be very difficult and i can well understand that it may not be for some. Because we have a 13 year old daughter it would be sometimes difficult to
keep the dynamic going so i gave her a couple of simple rules to stick to day to day so that she demonstrates and is aware of "her role" in this relationship even when people are around, or heavier play is out of the question, and simple things like presenting herself to me before bed, and many nights she wears a chain collar around her neck that is fixed to the bed,(its done in a way thats very safe) this keeps the 24/7 feeling going, but in reality the bdsm side of things works out very much along the lines of jones,nikkas its just not possible or even desirable to be heavy scening every night, after all we both have work to get up for etc..And i think too much would be too soon, if you get my meaning, at this stage anyway....MrJerseyGuy, that thing with her having something to drop seemed like a good idea at the time, in the past i have been very wary of going too far with the beatings and always backed off very quickly, but in this case i thought i would find out just how far she could go by putting her in control of when it stops, she would never think of herself as a painslut, but you could have fooled me that night, and in fact it was me that had to back off in the end as she went as far as i would possibly want to take it at this stage...Anyway thanks for all your support, i will have to see if i can get her in here to say howdy!!!