Hi spirit, yes indeed it seems it can be done, we have had lots of talking over the last few weeks, lots of difficult moments too, but she has come through everytime, around kids there are a lot of things that in this relationship i would like to be able to do but cant, i cant keep her naked or in cuffs as i would like, but we have workarounds, she dosnt sit on the sofa when we watch tv (rarely do anyway) but on a pile of cushions, our daughter just thinks mum likes to sit where she can have her hair played with, if only she knew My sub sleeps chained most nights but we have a lock on our bedroom door, we both get up for work at the same time so i let her go and the doors unlocked and its business as usual...so it can be done even with kiddies around as im sure you are finding or will find
Congratulations on your choice, its working for us so far and i hope it does for you too