i do agree with what everybody is saying in essence. i was very displeased and she was punished for the action but as i said the nose ring thing was not discussed since we began the lifestyle (therefore a grey area) and as i see it it is her body as it is just a vessel for her heart mind and soul wich are my property. as an analogy if you oreder somthing and it is shipped to you do you own the plane/truck delivering the merchandise simply because it houses you property? no and for that reason, while i am displeased with her action now that the damage is done i cannot do more than punish her for displeasing me and make the best of it. as for the item i am searching for the symble is the triple ying-yang thing on a post as i said earlier i found a stud at bdsmsymble jewlery but the symble is way too large for a tastful nose ring