What was the first submissive thing you did?

[csr]

I spent 7 1/2 years married to a very vanilla woman who I honestly don't think enjoyed any kind of sex. I don't think I was anywhere experienced enought to help her work through her repression and as a result even the vanilla was boring. During that time I started to get inklings that there was something else out there... I bought handcuffs and got her to use them once or twice, but she wasn't into that either and I wasn't even sure why I wanted them!

My next serious gf was great in bed and very experimental, so together we explored and I became enlightened. I wouldn't say I was submissive at the time though but the scening-and sex-was great.

The next woman to enter my life found clothespins in my bedroom before we were even dating! It didn't take her long to figure me out and well, you can imagine the rest. Needless to say we live together now and plan to marry.

So for me, my first "submissive" experiences don't actually coincide with my first BDSM experiences, if that makes any sense.

[TaintedJohn]

I was about 12 and on a week-long church outing in NH. I was horsing around with a girl named Cheryl in the girls room. It had about four mattresses pushed together on the floor. Cheryl was able to twist her way to on top of me and I slipped between two mattresses with her firmly in control on top. She went to kiss me while I struggled to get loose, but she was sitting on my chest and had my arms pinned above my head. When Cheryl's lips got close to mine I relaxed and let it happened. My first kiss and not another one has ever been close to it in the feelings it stirred in me.

On the other side of the coin:

I was working in Vegas and trying to go out with this co-worker, without much success, when I said the magic words one night "I got pot" We were getting high and talking about alot of stuff. She was getting divorced. One of the reasons was she really had to work to get her husband to spank her. The other reason was he was fucking her best friend.

We were seeing each other every night after work as friends, but that was as far as it went. After many nights of talking about her spanking fantasies(I was not to quick on the uptake then), I took her to a dirty bookstore and she went thru the racks of books and found one that interested her.

When we got back to my place, I gave her a highlighter pen and asked her to highlight those passages and words that spun her wheels. After about an hour, she handed it back and I flipped thru the book and found a few pages that she had really marked up. I read the passages to her and when I had finished I asked her how it made her feel. To this point we had never even kissed, but she took my hand and put it down her pants and into her panties. She was soaked. She looked at me and asked "Do you think you could spank me?" Without missing a beat, "Why yes I can", I replied. She got up and went and took a shower. While she was doing that I was frantically thumbing thru the book looking for phrases that turned her on. At the same time, I'm trying to come to grips with my reluctance to strike anyone else(a childhood thing). I realized from talking with her for many weeks that she was frustrated about never finding anyone that enjoyed spanking her. Although it looked good for sex tonight no matter how things turned out, if I didn't really get into her kink that it would unlikely go little farther than that.

She stepped out of the bathroom naked. I told her sternly(OK, I did my best at this) "You had been very naughty and needed to be punished" "Yes, sir" When she got close to me I took her hand and pulled her over my lap, but before she was face down she looked at me and squeaked "But I promise to be good" I never really thought about my reply which was "Well, that will not help you now young lady" I roughly pulled her over my lap, but at the last instant saw this glazed faraway look in her eyes. To be honest, up until this point my vanilla sex life and my feeble attempts at foreplay, never really got the girls that worked up before sex(maybe even during sex), but that was not the case after this spanking. She was totally mine then and it felt incredible.

We were married about six months later and have been together for 13 years since. She has taken a recent interest in BDSM, which has some problems for us, since she looks on me as too a nice guy to be her Dom.

TJ

[AndrewBlack]

That's a wonderful story TJ, I guess you'll just have to change her mind on the nice guy bit, I'm sure you can think of numerous ways of doing that! ( assuming that is what you want? )

[spirit]

i had to post to this thread, as it hit sooooo close to home. i had totally discounted by husband to be my Dom. After being married for 17 years, i was completely convinced that he could never be an effective Dom for me. However, i was proven wrong, which he thoroughly enjoys reminding me of every chance he gets!

[Wade17]

When I was about 7 years old, a teenage boy and girl in our apartment complex teased me a good deal. At one point, they said they had a club that I couldn't join. This got me very upset and I said I would do anything to join their club. Well, they talked among themselves for a few minutes and then said for me to follow them.

The three of us went behind some bushes in the complex and the girl said I had to suck the boys cock to be in the club. I had never even heard of anything like this, but immediatley said OK. He dropped his pants and I got on my knees and sucked his cock until he came on my face. What was most interesting is that she watched the entire time and even directed me a little bit.

It really didnt' mean much to me at the time, but now when I think back on it, it's a real turn on.

[sweetplymate]

very basic and simple in nature, but i have always, since i was a child and especially since i started dating, been one to sit on the floor next to my s.o. while watching tv or movies curled around their legs...or if sitting up on the couch, i am usually laying with my head in their lap

[YoungBlood]

Well i am just getting into the lifestyle and i would not even bother trying with none of my vanilla ex-girlfriends. But a couple of years ago when i was working at Dunkin Donuts in highschool there was this older girl i worked with who i was friendly with but she always had an attitude. i think she knew i was submissive before i did because she would always yell at me or insult me. Even sometimes calling me a fagot or insulting me in front of customers or other employees. I never really understood why i liked it so much but now that i do i wish i still had her number....