tessa,

I don't have much advice to give either because my husband and I are in the same predicament. I think the fact that He was willing to talk about it was great ... Everyone is going to have bumps in the road ... even the submissive who knows she's submissive and is with a Dominant who's known he's a Dominant (does that makes sense) ... every relationship has times when things happen that aren't so great. I have to say ... I'm in awe at your control of your anger ... I think this is why my own journey has been so rough ... up untill about 8 months ago I had been in a power struggle with my husband .... getting angery with him, barking out orders, pretty much topping him ... in everyday situations as well as the bedroom. One day in a particularly bad argument .... He looked me dead in the eye very seriously and said ... "Are you a submissive or not?" ... We talked for a long time after that and what I finally realized that it was ME that was stopping my own fairytale ending. For some reason I had gotten it into my head that my husband couldn't be my Dominant, that He would never be my Dominant. I didn't trust him ... although, I really had no basis for that mistrust (yes, I know I'm a cooky girl) ... In fact if anything ... He had reason to not trust ME. It's been a very strange long road and we are still trying to figure things out ... Right now our goal is my anger issues .. which I'm glad to report are pretty much under control ... We've decided to work on one goal at a time with me ... because I have a lot of emotional baggage.

I'm sorry this is all rambaling ... I just wanted you to know that I can sympathize with you.