Sheesh, yeah, how annoying ValKyrie...

i'm not sure what TG amd Master Kurt are referring to is the same sort of thing...that, to me, seems to be a mutual thing...and the way i read ValKyrie's post, she is referring to dominant men constantly approaching dominant women, despite being rebuked repeatedly.

Having said that, it depends on what you mean...do you mean they approach you in the sense of wanting to dominate you?? Or just in the sense of..*thinks*...well, i dunno, coming on to you? If it's the former, then i don't actually think they are true dominants at all or they would have some respect for the fact that you are also dominant and not open to being dominated.

i also think (and this is only a personal opinion) a proportion of 'dominant' men seem to secretly harbour submissive desires, which, for whatever strange reason, they don't feel comfortable openly expressing. They have an interest in BDSM generally and feel it is somehow more 'fitting' to label themseleves dominant (which is shame), but go on to come on to Dommes or attempt to suddenly switch in a scene (or even in an o/l chat)...trust me when i say this is annoying to submissives as it is to Dommes!

Finally, i think some folks are just interested in BDSM and generally kinky...not that there is anything wrong with being kinky (for want of a much better term) or just being 'into' BDSM without really knowing where you 'fit'....but it causes a great deal of confusion when that person tries to pour themselves into a mould for the sake of labelling.

sl