Quote Originally Posted by slavelucy
i'm not sure what TG amd Master Kurt are referring to is the same sort of thing...that, to me, seems to be a mutual thing...and the way i read ValKyrie's post, she is referring to dominant men constantly approaching dominant women, despite being rebuked repeatedly.
I guess it could be a desire to submit to the other dominant, or it could be just finding something about the other dominant attractive and interesting despite their orientation... or it could be just having really poor judgement and methodically hitting on anyone that strikes their fancy.

It depends on where it's coming from, and the only way to really understand it is through dialogue. Could be someone like Kurt, who has something to share. But then again, maybe ValKyrie doesn't want to share. Regardless, this is kind of a fuzzy area even in a BDSM circle, so I'd be very interested in hearing what kind of future dialogue or conclusions you (or others similarly pursued) infer from this.

While conventional wisdom indicates it's probably the 'methodically hitting on anyone' scenario, you never know what's around the corner until you peek. If you're happy where you are, and don't want to risk having a dominant whine for attention (!), just be firm from the beginning and say, "No trolls please." If you're curious, I don't think any real harm can come from a conversation. You might make a good friend, someone who you can respect and respect you, a buddy in the craft.

Don't think you're looking for advice in that arena, ValKyrie, but that's how I'd approach it.