Perhaps some people enjoy the power struggle and believe they truly can win?

Or perhaps some men believe unconditionally that a woman's place and a woman's needs can only be fulfilled as subbie? Hence, they feel a need to teach some of us renegade women a lesson or two.

I can understand some of the allure of topping a strong, independent individual. In fact, my own sub is a very strong, powerful man and yes, this fuels my fire.

However, I recognize a great amount of strength in how comfortable and confident he is with the power exchange as it occurs between us. Having a sub that exudes strength and control in his daily life isn't like felling a tree. Rather, it is more like feeding and nurturing it.

(Slipping off topic, but he is on My mind this evening. )

Val