Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide

How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?

LOL! What a great question! The Internet! I'd never heard of it before and thought I was mentally insane for having such deep, dark thoughts.

What was its appeal to you?

Someone out there was as mentally insane as me! I wasn't alone. *grin*

What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?

I actually believed that people who were into BDSM were all somehow honest and caring.

What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?

Spankee beware! *grin*

I've personally found that BDSM activities can have a powerful effect on healing the hurts of our past if done with some attention and questioning of why we want what we want. Many activities are simply sexually thrilling and exciting, or pose interesting 'mind games' to explore. However, some activities or the intensity of a particualar activity can be a clue about something in our subconscious that might need to be addressed and it is often wonderful to face it and overcome it .. and still enjoy that activity.

Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?

Not a fair question! LOL! It depends. My natural outlook on life is that Men are cool and should be king of their castle, that women are naturally bisexual (I know that isn't true, but this is my delusion we're speaking of here , and sex is vitally important in a relationship. I also think that sex has the most potential to engage all our senses, our intellect, our emotions, our playful side, our serious side and exploring that thin line between pleasure and pain is downright thrilling. That's my view on life and I live it.

However, having said all that, based on the amount of play time we can carve out of our busy lives, I'd say that we barely rate occasional player! But we're working to change that. *grin*

What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?

I'm submissive only to my husband and dominant with everyone else and I enjoy that because it's easiest for me, just the way I am and going against that just causes me a world of hurt.

What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)?

What, I have to write a book now?! Everything!

Pooka