How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?

Short version, I seduced my physics tutor in college (or so I thought), gave him a blowjob...he was extraordinarily well-endowed and quite impressed by my "ability and determination." When he realized I was in tears because of his digging fingers into my shoulders and hair, but still managed to cum just from making him cum (though I think his fingers sent me over the edge) he realized I had potential. He was an experienced Dom, and trained me for the next 3 years.

What was its appeal to you?

Pain....and incredible sex...and discovering subspace....and finally feeling comfortable in my own skin.

What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?

None. I had no clue that any of this formally existed. I was a total "innocent." (at least BDSM-wise )

What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?

Haven't much thought about it. Perhaps that there's no ONE way to live this life.

Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?

Something in between. We live 24/7 but it's just part of the rest of our lives, not the whole focus.

What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?

It makes me comfortable in my own skin.

What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)?

He just "fits" for me. Like the other side of the same coin. In his arms, at his feet, I'm home.