from what I read so far (I must say I didn't read all) I have to say, that YOU, BDSM Tourguide, have a girl to be proud of!
Getting into the thread (and explaining why I think Finding Fantasy is stuck in my mind)
I think, that trust is very! important and giving your girl away to make her show her submission is something, that I never could find exciting, especially because this would make her feel perhaps like a thing, what is no fun anymore. This is not erotic to me (my opinion - but as YN Humilator says, as a fantasy it is not wrong to like it).
Coming back to Finding Fantasy, your opinion, you showed in this thread about O makes me want to ask you, if you have a sister, perhaps living in central europe