sarah,

That's a really sad tale and i'm so sorry for everyone involved.

Try and bear in mind that what his wife said was born out of shock, hurt and grief, and further, it wasn't him talking, i'm sure you brought him a lot of happiness. It's easy for people to judge him on having a secret life, but we don't know the situation, there may have been many, many reasons why he felt he couldn't share a certain side of him with his close family.

As for the sending emails to your place of work..well, that's so awful...i realise she was in shock, but good god, surely she had SOME clue as to his non-vanilla tendancies.

Anyway, again, i'm so sorry, for you, and for the whole situation. Take good care of yourself.

lucy