Stone'sSlut - a very thought provoking and interesting post, that I could spend many hours commenting on and talking about. I once was in a class with somebody who was writing a thesis on 'masochism and feminism' (or something to that effect) - I'd love to have read what she wrote, but unfortunately didn't really catch up with her after that time.

I think the most important thing is that (unless we are TRULY sick ) ideology will never get us hard/wet - we can't control what turns us on based on what's polite or politically expedient or historically correct. Feminists who deny that are, to me, exactly the same as religious fundamentalists who believe that they can be 'trained' out of being homosexual.

Good luck with your relationship's continuing success, and hope to see more of your writing here