How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?

One of my first boyfriends "roped" me into it.


What was its appeal to you?

I find submission (and occasional topping) to be quite addictive.


What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?

I didn't know a lot before I started playing. I was... 14? 15?


What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?

The exhilaration and pride that comes with serving a Dominant or properly challenging a submissive.


Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?

I'm in it for the long haul. BDSM, D/s in particular, has become a staple for me.


What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?

Domme: Setting the bar too high then seeing the pouty look in a submissive's face when they have tried SO VERY HARD to reach a goal but fell short. Then, of course, the whimpers and screams to follow.

sub: Being objectified... having someone turn me into a toy for their amusement, gratification, or servitude. I feel immense pride at seeing a smile on my Dom(me)'s face.


What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)?

My Mistress is even more strict than I am when I top. Things must be done exactly as she commands or else! The rewards she offers are delicious. The punishments she hands out are severe.

Each of my submissives are into D/s primarily, as am I. They each thrive on formality and nuance. I love to reward and punish each and every one of them for different reasons... the squeal one makes when I cane the bottoms of her feet, the moans another exudes when sliding a huge, harnessed dildo into her ass... *purrrrr*