I absolutely agree, it is manipulative and it can be seriously damaging to the trust that is built up as well. I cannot see there being a serious enough problem to warrant the silent treatment with your sub online.Originally Posted by Pandora's Box
As for the rest of the questions, if your sub is honestly seeking exploration of themselves and their sexuality, I don't think that disobeying requests or orders should be in question. If you've established likes, dislikes, and limits, they will likely be glad to participate.
I think if you have gotten to the point where you distrust that your partner is actually following through, then there are deeper issues that need to be addressed, such as communication.