Feminism isn't just about wanting things for onesself. Enjoying M/f or F/m or F/f personally isn't important from the perspective of feminism; what counts is whether you believe that every woman should have the ability to enter into whatever kind of relationship she wants. And every man too, for that matter; despite the name, feminism isn't only about promoting women's rights.
emphasis Mine.

That's what I got out of Stone'sSlut's post, and am thankful that I understood it that way.
I am from a very small southern town, deep in the bible belt. One doesn't have to have much of an imagination to imagine what I was brought up to believe feminism is all about. To make matters worse I moved to "the big city" where the feminism in my head was re-enforced by loud feminists.
I learned also this lesson with regards to gay people. One should not judge people by the loudest group within that group. To try and help y'all make sense out of that last sentence...
When I moved to Atlanta I was faced with Act Out and Gay Pride Day. Talk about culture shock! It wasn't until later that I found some of my friends are gay. They are nothing like what I saw, and they're embarrassed by the way some of the gay community act. The same way I'm embarrassed with the way some of the people from my hometown act out with regards to certain things.
Judge not lest ye be judged.
I try not to pass judgment, but, of course I am only human.
This is why I'm so thankful to have found this forum, there are many thinking people here, my kind of place.