l<itten,

I agree with sl, LD, and Mobius here (wow, so much agreement...something must be in the water).

But really, taking your time and making sure you know what you want for yourself is important. I know we all mature at different speeds and am respectful of the fact that you may already know that you're happiest when serving. I just don't want you to sacrifice your own interests in an attempt to please your master. Remember that negotiation is important at the beginning of any relationship but it's especially necessary for D/s.

Also, please don't feel bad about using your safe word or feeling as if you need time in order to be able to give your dom more trust. It's normal for trust to develop over time. I'd be worried if you did trust him to do anything after having only been in the relationship for a relatively short amount of time. It sounds like you both respect each other so just stay open, take it slow, communicate, and have fun. I think you'll do just fine. Remember also that we should never stop learning, no matter how old we get or how long we've been with a significant other, that's part of the fun!

The threads lucy found are both good for more practical info. Enjoying anal is somewhat of an acquired taste. Take it slow...get to enjoy a couple fingers in your ass, then maybe a small to medium butt plug, and work up to anal sex with your dom if that's still what you both want. Again, have fun!

Also, you should be commended for posting. That takes guts but I'm glad you did it as the members here are wonderful resources.

eb