Anal sex

[l<itten]

well i dunno. he's tried doing it with me doggie style. but usually once he gets a bit of it in... i just squirm away which i dont want to, but i keep thinking it'll hurt like hell so i just yeah, escape

I have the same exact problem. I want to do anal, but I have an extremely LOW tolerance for pain, but am curious and want to do anal. I find myself squirming away from my Master's cock as he is trying to put it in.

[slavelucy]

I have the same exact problem. I want to do anal, but I have an extremely LOW tolerance for pain, but am curious and want to do anal. I find myself squirming away from my Master's cock as he is trying to put it in.

Yeah, see, it's at that point you should try to fight all your natural instincts to pull away (heh, i make that sound easy!) and push back onto him..push out, if you see what i mean...it will hurt for a second, but once you're past that, it should be fine, if he's gentle with you...and you'll only need to do it once, to convince yourself that it will work, if you see what i mean.

sl

[l<itten]

Yeah, see, it's at that point you should try to fight all your natural instincts to pull away (heh, i make that sound easy!) and push back onto him..push out, if you see what i mean...it will hurt for a second, but once you're past that, it should be fine, if he's gentle with you...and you'll only need to do it once, to convince yourself that it will work, if you see what i mean.

sl

lol yea, alot easier said than done. My Master also suggested I push back on him, I think maybe if we both decide this is something we want to continue trying to do that maybe I should mention him letting me have control during anal until if/and/or/when I get used to it. Which might be hard for me, I don't take control, I never have. I prefer to be Dominated than to Dominate.

[slavelucy]

lol yea, alot easier said than done.

*grin* Absolutely...because every ounce of your natural instincts screams 'Pull away, you fool!'...but i promise, promise, promise, if you relax and push out, it will get better after a few strokes.

Which might be hard for me, I don't take control, I never have. I prefer to be Dominated than to Dominate.

But..it's not dominating. Try to think of it as doing something that ultimately will lead to you be able to do something you want to do for him..in that respect, it's the ultimate submissive action.

(Just to be clear, if anal sex is something that you decide is a hard limit, then that's cool, i'm not saying you HAVE to do anal sex, if it's just not your cup of tea.)

sl

[-angelstar-]

lucy, just wondering but will there be slight tearing or a little bleeding during the first time anal is tried?

[slavelucy]

lucy, just wondering but will there be slight tearing or a little bleeding during the first time anal is tried?

Hey angel, nice to hear from you.

There shouldn't be significant tearing and/or bleeding, no, especially not if done with consideration (and lube!). You will obviously 'feel' slightly different, for a very short while (having been stretched, it's just new, to the body), but that's as much a pyschological thing i think. If there was to be any slight bleeding, it would be no more than like an ink flick of blood, and you almost certainly wouldn't notice it or feel pain from it afterwards, the human body is very resiliant and it wouldn't be anything significant enough to trouble it. If done with care, the anus will accomodate what you wish it to accomodate without tearing, promise.

sl

[-angelstar-]

yeppers, havent been around much lately. hope all is well for you

anyway the reason why i asked was because the one time i tried getting a substantial bit of him up my butt, i found a bit of spotting... and my butt felt quite sore. so that freaked me out a little cos i got worried that i'd bleed a lot more if i took it all up

i shall work on my mental block now

thanks lucy!

[BDSM_Tourguide]

I have the same exact problem. I want to do anal, but I have an extremely LOW tolerance for pain, but am curious and want to do anal. I find myself squirming away from my Master's cock as he is trying to put it in.

For an easier time with anal sex, tell your master not to start with his cock, but with his tongue instead. Analingus tends to give pleasurable feelings in the area and should cause you to relax somewhat. After a few minutes of it, you will probably notice your hips rocking as he's licking you, just as if he was performing cunnilingus.

Second, after the tongue, still leave the cock in the pants. Have him use a finger or small vibe to begin slowly penetrating you. All the time, you should be concentrating not on how much it might hurt, but on your breathing and the relaxation of the muscles in your anus. After you are able to take a couple of finger or a small vibe easily, then it's time to pull the cock out of the pants and put it in the bum.

That should, however, be done slowly at first. This will give you plenty of time to stay relaxed and to get used to the larger (hopefully) item being introduced into your rectum. After that, it's easy peasy. You'll be laughing in no time.

To keep the anus "trained" try using a small butt plug for a certain amount of time each day. Start with a half hour's wear and move up from there. Once you can easily handle a small one, move to larger one. Eventually, you can get to the point where you can walk around with one in, wear one to work, or even sleep with one in and not even notice. Suffice it to say, when you get used to having a foreign body in your anus for lengthy periods of time, having your master turn you over and shove his cock all the way in you in one stroke is not so difficult anymore.

[MistressKali]

As a nurse, I've read this thread with interest, and a smile most of the time. First, as with any muscle, the sphincter can be stretched if done gently without causing any long term lasting effects... as long as it is not given the chance to atrophe (do those keigel excercises to keep up the elasticity!) and given a chance to return to normal and not remain in a stretched condition for extended periods of time without a rest. Second, as long as you KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that you are in a relationship where there is no chance of death by sex and both partners have tested negative for chlamydia, human papilloma virus, trichomonas, syphilis, gonorrhea, gardnerella, and herpes then a condom is not necessary as long as 1) there is no switching from anal to vaginal sex without cleaning up first and 2) the male urinates right after to flush the bacteria from the urethra and washes well to eleminate them from crawling right back into the warm wet environment they like so well.

To make anal sex play enjoyable and healthy, keep these tips in mind: Because no lubrication is produced by the anus, a lubricant should definitely be used to help the insertion of anything -- finger, penis or sex toy. Water-based lubricants are fine. Some of these can be purchased at drugstores or at a store that carries sensual accessories. Other more greasy lubricants are preferred by some who intend to spend a longer time at anal play. If you are using a latex based condom, remember that petrolium based products break down latex, exposing you to the risk of a STD.

For additional information on this topic, I recommend Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men and Women by Jack Morin.

~steps down from the lecture podium with a sheepish grin~