Quote Originally Posted by duktig flicka
Good grief, I wouldn't say it was so extreme as you put it, Mobius. I simply think of vanilla as sex without bdsm. It can still be fun and interesting with variety, various fetishes, different positions, multiple partners, or what-have-you. Just no power play.

I guess there's different definitions.
I'm going to disagree here and set the record straight.

Kink is different from vanilla. Any fetish play, multiple partners and power play all differ from normal, "vanilla" sex. Vanilla sex is sex without any form of kink. No handcuffs, no floggers, no leather, no latex, no additional parties involved.

Vanila is not simply seperate from BDSM. Vanilla is seperate from the entire kink umbrella. You have vanilla and then you have kink. Kink encompasses BDSM, yes, but it also includes other fetishes and practices like leather and swinging.

Vanilla sex is the monogamous, sexual relationship one partner has with another partner without the benefit of anything "abnormal." Some people would even consider sex toys as an abnormality. I think it depends on the toy. I think a vibrator is a vanilla toy, but a butt plug is definitely kinky.

And if you want to get really technical about things, since sodomy is technically a sexual deviation, then anal and oral sex should both be considered kinky. However, in this day and age, I'd say oral sex is commonplace and very vanilla, but anal sex is definite kink material.

At least the starter of this thread is getting a lot more than just a literal efinition for her question.