Wolverine, you're both right and wrong.

Everyone has baggage. In one way or another. It's just part of life.

You will need to do your part to heal yourself. No one else can do that for your. However, when you have taken yourself as far as you can go and you feel ready again... that is when the other person can help you grow and learn even more.

At least those are my brief, and admittedly sleepy, thoughts on the subject.

Good luck.