Quote Originally Posted by Wolverine
Thank you e.b.

It's just that I don't feel it would be right to ask a Dom(me) to try and work past the mess someone else left behind (ie me).

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Sorry.
Wolverine,

Pandora already addressed some of your concerns quite well. She's right that you are the only one that can really do the work of processing and moving through a bad experience. However, no one should have to do it all by themselves either. I don't know how you feel about professional therapy but it might be helpful for you, especially considering that you don't feel comfortable asking a significant other to work on it with you at this point. Besides, it's probably healthier to have a professional help as they are trained to do so and can be more objective.

Also, you are not a "mess", you're a person who deserves to be happy just like any of the rest of us. Once you get to a point where you feel more whole, then it's reasonable to expect your Dom(me) or partner to help too. That's what friends do. Granted, it's not their place to solve it for you, but they can offer support and someone to talk to as you work through things.

You're obviously already starting to work towards healing by posting here. You just have to try to stay confident and committed to growing from your past instead of letting it drown your spirit. Oh, and don't worry about your English, it's excellent...far better than I could do with my non-primary language.

eb