First I hope that my discovering this thread a little late doesn't make my advice unwanted.

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Now for audience participation...please? I am here asking to learn from your experience and knowledge, from Dominants and submissives. Your perspectives on what happened, how it was handled initially and the way it played out afterwards. I guess I am hoping that anyone with experience in living out a D/s relationship (in whatever form that may be in...online or face-to-face...it's all real life) can relate to this and maybe even share what happened in his or her situation. And for Dominants and submissives who just are who they are on their own at the moment, I would appreciate hearing your take on it as well. What could have been done and said, on both our parts? And while I am a great fan of witty humor (please include all you can), I do hope it will be laced with the seriousness I seek. Not asking for any big drama, just some insight from those who know more than we do and are willing to share with us.
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I have a lot of experience in raising kids and trying to live the life. First, a Dom is not a cripple so needs to carry his share in domestic situations, even if your a stay at home, don't work sub/slave.

I would first say that yelling is the mistake you made, a Dom is never going to take orders from sub/slave happily. Learn to ask in a submissive nature. I train my sub/slave to ask nicely, using Master when appropriate.

A quick aside you should have names for each other that the vanilla world or kids won't realize are ways of saying Master or slave. She uses my name Russell I use little girl or my love, she knows that I am saying my beloved slave and I know she is showing respect.

A sub/slave that learns this trick of asking nicely, begging when she can, will find that she can get the help needed without stepping out of character.

As I said earlier I do housework so that we have more fun time together, but I have learned to find out which mmmmm tasks I can do without making her feel guilty.

Russell

PS be glad it wasn't me once the talk was over the punishment would have begun.