How did I become interested in BDSM?

Herr Doktor, you ask a good question. As I ponder, various images come to mind ... playing cowboys and indians and capturing someone ... being excited by detective magazine and "man's magazine" covers and not knowing why ... for me the bigger question is, when was I NOT?


What was its appeal to you?

In a word: power. Control. No, that's two words.
What IS its appeal to me? Two words: Power, control and pleasure. That's three words ...
Oh, you want a serious answer?


What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?

Only that fantasy and reality are not the same thing. But it is a lot of fun anyway ...


What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?

The exhilaration and pride that comes with serving a Dominant or properly challenging a submissive. (Thanks kittenfemme).
Add to that respect for your partner. And how to give and receive pleasure.


Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?
Unless one works in a brothel, we are all just occasional players. But in our minds ...


What do you enjoy about being dominant/submissive?

Giving and receiving pleasure, in all its forms. Walking the line between fantasy/reality, pain/pleasure, expectations/reality, heaven/hell


What do you like about your dominant/submissive(s), if you have one (them)?

Intelligence, creativity, desire, willingness, sense of humour, playfulness, resistance, submission, and most of all, passion. And flexibility helps too.