(thread merged with original thread - sl)

Yeah, i see what you mean now. i suspect most of those questions would be best answered by dominants really, but in terms of how to start a scene, i can sort of understand what you mean, especially when it's not 24/7. my Master would usually just..*thinks*...perhaps put his hand on the back of my neck, or in my hair and have me look at him, perhaps adding a 'ssssh' whilst i'm still yapping on in my usual lucy-ish way. (*grin*). Not being dominant makes it hard to answer that one any further, since i don't really start scenes, plus, even if i did, it's the dom perspective you're interested in.

Humiliation/verbal abuse...i think that's all about knowing your partner and a bit of trial and error. What some people would consider abuse, others may not. There is some good stuff on this particular issue here.

sl