Quote Originally Posted by BDSM_Tourguide
I think this one was a good piece. Maybe some new members would care to have a look and see if anything here is worth replying.

Agreed TG. It is good.

I find myself agreeing with FF on the use of the word slave. I have never liked it and have trouble using it as a title. It just doesn't sit right.

tehya I have to agree with you too about titles. I don't find much use for them either, and not just in BDSM. Those who know me have never seen me use one. Often I find people use titles as a quick way to explain to others how they practice the lifestyle or wish they did. Given the proliferation of titles, particularly to the right of the / it becomes hard to even interpret. Too often I fall into the trap of using the wrong title to describe someone. Given my roots its usually the word "submissive" and its followed by a loud cry of "I'm not submissive and never will be" or something flying across the room. In the last couple of years I don't even try.

A good example would be a lesbian couple who are in an S&m relationship that involves uniforms and very physical play. They describe themselves as "Daddy" and "boy". While it does an adequate job of describing their play style it sure doesn't fit any traditional definition I know of the words.

One of the main things my years have taught me is that there is no one right way to practice the lifestyle. While many wrong ones abound. It all boils down to the fact we are all people, and should be granted the respect for our choices even if they don't fit into our little molds.