To echo on a couple of thoughts above. I have on my key chain a little slapper thingy given to me by a sub many years ago. While the rest of the world wouldn't give it a second thought it still reminds me both of her and gets me to pause and think about BDSM and relationship.

A great stress relief for me at the end of a long day or on the way to one is to think on BDSM. Weather its something we have done or want to do physically or just the enjoyment of submission given. It is particularly useful in keeping the blood pressure down when stuck in traffic. I for one much prefer walking in the door with good thoughts and in a playful mood then gggggrrrrring about the traffic. edhorse:

FF this topic has beef quiet for a while. It would be interesting to hear if you found something here that helped.