My lover and slave is 18 and this is her first M/s experience, so you can imagine how extremely important it is to me that my slave understands the difference between obedience and servility. With adulthood itself being such new territory for her, I'm constantly monitoring myself to make sure I don't fuck this up. I simply couldn't forgive myself if this became a negative experience for her that would color any future relationships. (she hate's it when I say that, but I'm realistic. I hope the day never comes, but I am doing my best to be prepared to let her go if that's what she wants/needs.)

We've had more than a few situations where she started kicking her heels, sometimes at the right moments, sometimes not. I wholeheartedly agree with RedEva: communication, respect, and patience are ESSENTIAL.

I have the advantage of having had military experience. For two years I was the crew chief of a small unit that was assisting the EOD team (Explosive Ordinance Disposal, "bomb squad" to you civvies :P). The attitude that was fostered among us was one of extreme professionalism, where anyone could speak up no matter the rank. Although adherence to procedure was critically important, we recognized each other's human fallibility. It would be the height of stupidity to become a puddle of shiny red goo just because a junior member was afraid to point out a potential hazard.

I try to foster a similar attitude with my slave. Although it's essential that she trust and obey her Master - because what would be the point otherwise? - it's equally important that she be comfortable with letting Me know when she's worried or unhappy. I am, after all, a GUY, just as subject to being boneheadedly unaware of what's going on in a woman's heart, mind and soul as any other guy.

Your Master has already told you to express yourself, ~d~. I would suggest you follow that order, soldier!