I'd have to agree with TG... anything that is "kink" is not vanilla, including polyamory.
Quote Originally Posted by Mobius
...For example vanila sex would be misionary position lights off only on saturdays, Once a month.
Not at all... doggie style, lights on, kitchen floor = vanilla. (as long as doggie style doesn't include doggie collar! )

Lots of BDSM folk around here mention having vanilla sex as part of their life as well... and it can be just as hot, imho.